I found the following article online and wanted to share the information. The original article appears here https://www.infidelityfirstaidkit.com/meeting-single-men-at-coffee-shops/, by the author “Orlando”.
The first 2 tips are things I have never thought of; seems like a solid strategy. Enjoy! 😎
5 Strategies for Meeting Single Men at Coffee Shops
1. Sit at a Big Table (or at a Cluster of Chairs)
You won’t meet a guy at the farthest table from everyone else. Do not isolate yourself. Meeting single men means situating yourself close to where other men will come.
2. Sit Next to the Condiment Bar
Another idea for setting up shop for meeting single men is to sit close to the condiment bar. It gives you a few seconds to strike up a conversation with the next few techniques on this list.
3. Try Observation Conversation Starters
Look for a reasonable excuse to start a conversation that will look natural. Then remark on what you see with a question.
- “Oh, are you a (name of team on his t-shirt or hat) fan?”
- “I’ve considered getting that kind of laptop. May I ask what made you choose it?”
- “Excuse. I hope I’m not interrupting, but it looks like an interesting book you’re reading. You’re really into it. May I ask what it’s about?”
- “Wow, may I say what a cool sticker you have on your laptop? What does it mean and where did you get it?”
4. Ask for Advice Based on Their Areas of Expertise
People love to talk about what they are good at and everyone loves to help others in need.
“Excuse me. You look really look interested in what you’re doing on the computer. So I hope you don’t mind me asking what you do for work or what you’re studying. I’ve met a lot of interesting people by asking that.”
Then…
5. Express Interest and How Impressed You Are..
…with whatever they say in response to number 4.
Get them to talk. Ask them questions.
- “I’m fascinated that you get to work remotely from a coffee shop. How do you like it?”
- “Really? I admire you for owning your own business. It fascinates me. May I ask what motivated you to get into that business?”
- “You’re studying for your real estate exam? Fascinating? Are you looking to become a sellers agent or buyers agent?”
You know, whatever it takes to keep the conversation going.
Read their social cues to determine if they wish to keep talking or not and if they show interest in you.
The best sign…
… the smile, look you in the eye, and ask you questions back.
And please remember…
- Some people will not want to talk.
- People can be complete bores.
- And some might be married and don’t want to get picked up.
Talk anyway, it’s the only chance you have for meeting single men to end your loneliness.
Don’t take things personally.
Just like you don’t always land the job after a great interview, you won’t always get a date or exchange numbers when meeting single men in real-life situations.
The point: all it takes is one guy and you won’t care about the rest.
Time for Action
As they get ready to leave mention how you enjoyed speaking with them and if they wouldn’t mind friending each other on FB.
If they agree, then ask for their name and friend them immediately. Mention how you hope to there or a different coffee shop meet next week.
This way if they respectfully decide not to exchange contact information as they are leaving the coffee shop it won’t feel as awkward as it would if they were still there.
Plus you can always reach out on FB to ask them to meet up.
